It hurts me to see some of my friends at odds with others. I truly believe that there is no one on my flist who doesn't sincerely try to be a good person, to live life with as much consideration for others as they can. We do have different ideas about what constitutes 'morality' in our extrememly complex lives, and the internet as a whole is the epiitome of that.
I'm not even going to say what I think is 'right' in this case. Suffice to say that I can understand all of the viewpoints.
For a really thoughtful essay and discussion of this I highly recommend reading this entry: